The Never Ending Chaos of Motherhood

Motherhood is great, but one thing you will never hear is a mom tell you that it's easy. Whether you're a mother of one or ten, you'll definitely understand what I'm talking about when I say that it doesn't matter the amount of kids we have, the chaos surrounds us all.

Newborn stage

When I was a new mom, it was a struggle doing multiple feedings every night. It was as though my baby was awake again just moments after I laid her down in her crib, leaving me with little to no sleep. The feeding thing just didn't work right either, and so many tears were shed both for baby and me. I also struggled with not being able to go out whenever somebody wanted to meet up. If a friend wanted to grab coffee together, I wasn't always able to because newborn babies are always napping. Newborns are precious and wonderful but let's be real, it is tiring!

To be honest, I was naive as a new mom. I thought that once my baby stopped sleeping all day, conquered sleeping through the night, and they were sufficient at feeding themselves, my life would slow down. Of course it would, right? Wrong!

Toddler stage

My girls got to the toddler stage and I began to see what everyone meant by the "terrible two's" and even what they meant when they told me that the terrible two's turn into the terrible threes. My life was complete chaos. It never slowed down as they began to sleep through the night or when they fed themselves. Though they slept through the night, it was because they had been soundly asleep in mom and dad's cozy bed while we were left with just inches of room on each side. They finally were able to feed themselves, but then food ended up all over their bodies, their hair, and the entire kitchen floor.

Goodness, it has surely got to be easier once they get out of this stage. I am anxious for them to be done with the potty training, the toddler tantrums, and I can speak to them with a broader vocabulary. They'll grow into these sweet little school age kids that listen and do the right thing all the time. School age has to be the sweet spot of course! Life will surely slow down then.

School age

Then those sweet little monsters of mine began to hit school age and that is when I began to realize that parenting is just a never-ending cycle of chaos. A whole new slew of challenges have arose. Whether it is their unwillingness to sit down and do their work in school or a rush of new activities like sports or choir that take up everyone's time. Sure, I may now be able to use that larger vocabulary, but they don't always love the content of what I am saying.

The truth of parenting

As parents, we are always tired. We are always busy. We are always battling with how to parent the best way we can. There are always issues with them that are going to stretch us both emotionally and physically. As parents though, we are also greeted with an unwavering love from our children. Though our schedules are busy and our lives are chaos, we are filled with the most wonderful joy.

If you're a new mom, don't be like me. Don't be naive to the fact that it is always busy, and it is almost always difficult. But if you are a new mom, hold on to the fact that we have the privilege to be a mom. We are given this wonderful blessing that not everyone gets the chance to embrace. Motherhood is such a precious gift!