Dating Your Spouse

When you become parents, kids typically start becoming first place rather than your spouse. I get it, they’re cuuute, but don’t let that cute face fool you. The best thing you can do for your kids is putting your spouse first! Yes! You heard my correctly, I told you to put your spouse before your kids. Did you know that kids feel more comfortable in their home and more loved when they know their parents have a good relationship? They feel secure enough to not need to find that security elsewhere. You set the tone for your home. So how do you build a better relationship? You DATE!

Dating your spouse 101:

1 - Get out of the house! 

Do whatever you need to do to get a babysitter and get out. In my opinion, the best babysitters are the students we know from my husband’s youth group. Go to a church, and get to know the students. They are awesome and they will love your kids!

2 - When you're out, spend time talking about how to grow

Yes, I mean the good and the bad. How are you going to grow if you don’t know how you can do better? [side note: say what you need to say nicely] 

3 - Have FUN together. 

Life is supposed to be fun, so live a little! Go on new adventures, whether small or big. It doesn’t always require money to do things. Look up what things are in your area....[thanks google search]  

4 - In between date nights out, date at the house

Who says you can’t wine and dine your spouse at your own home? Turn on the fire place, cook a yummy meal together, or let the one who can actually cook do that part. [all you non kitchen friendly people know who you are]

5 - Before or after your date when your kids are around, show affection for your partner.

They may be like my kids, shielding their eyes while yelling “ew disgusting!” but deep down they love seeing that!  All in all, your kids will thank you for putting each other first. And there’s no better time to start than Valentine’s Day. A holiday that we ALL know was created by hallmark, but a great reminder to spread the love.