The Comparison Game, the Thief of Joy
Have you ever caught yourself thinking about how you wish you had what someone else did? I know I'm not the only human who feels this way from time to time. I began watching Netflix’s new show “Dancing for the Devil” and I was immediately intrigued. If you like learning about cults, this is a must watch. I’ll try not to ruin the whole mini series, but basically they delve into what it looks like to be in a cult from former members and listen to the perspective of family members who are sucked in.
These people, who are in my opinion brain washed, are people who are famous. From an outsider looking in, I could have sworn to you they were perfectly normal humans with an incredible life. They look joy filled. They look like they find happiness from their love lives and dancing. If you keep watching, you realize why so many people feel it’s a cult and the brokenness that swarms amongst this group.
Comparisons We Make
My brain often tells me “If only I had this, then I would be better and happier.” If I had been better at school when I was younger, I would have had an easier life and I would have been able to make more money. If I was able to stay calm with my kids at all times without yelling, I bet they would be easier and love me more. I bet my husband would appreciate me more if I kept the house perfectly tidy and always looked my best physically. If I had that amount of money, I bet life would be easier. Our brains often think the grass is greener, and it takes a sense of intentionality to recognize that it’s not. All we need to be happy in life is just to be content with whatever scenario we are in.
As women, we need to start loving on each other more. Praising each other for the great things we do. Helping each other to stop focusing on the negative but rather the positive! We need to start being more honest about where we are really at. Letting other people see that we aren't perfect. And yes, we have or flaws, but we are also great moms!! Next time you see another mom and start feeling that jealousy creeping in, replace that thought with something you love about yourself! Your makeup might be smeared, you may have just thrown together a random outfit to get your kid to school, your child may have not potty trained till 4, and you may have a kid who clenches their mouth at the dentist, but remember how great you are!
You are incredibly beautiful! You are greatly loved, especially by your children! And you are a great mom!!! Go out and rock that smeared eyeliner!!!!
