Mom Friends Forever

Parenting is beautiful and one of the greatest gifts, but's it is tough! One of the best ways to lighten the load is by having mom friends. If you're confused about diapering, a funky rash, sickness, etc., call your mom friend. If you're excited about a first step, a first word, or that they managed to not have a blowout for a whole day, call your mom friend. If you're frustrated with the terrible two's, the terrible three's, the terrible teens, call your mom friend. If you are just all around struggling yourself and needing encouragement, call your mom friend!

Find Your Mom Friends

When most people find out they are going to become a mom, the reaction is typically excitement. In my case, that wasn't my first feeling. I was dealing with a lot of brokenness at the time and let's just say I wasn't expecting it. I was single then, lost and very confused. I could barely take care of myself, how was I supposed to take care of another human being? I had no mom friends. All my friends were either newly married or single. Luckily God's plans are better than ours.

Fast forward to only weeks later. One of my very best friends calls me up. She's pregnant now too! Her story is hers to share, but she wasn't planning to be a mom yet either. So here I am, lost and confused, but now doing this alongside one of my best friends. It changed everything. I was fortunate to have an amazing family to love and care for me, and amazing friends who were there for me constantly. However, the mom friendship I had gained at that time was crucial!

The friends who are at the same stage as you are people who can look at you and say "I get it". She was there for me when I was crying and scared during pregnancy, she stuck close to me saying things like "I love you...I get it...we can do this". Then, when we were brand new moms she was there by my side saying things like "how do we get them to sleep...how do you change a diaper...why won't they stop crying?!". She was somebody who related to me in such a special way and that took our friendship to a whole new level!  

Find Your Tribe

Whether you're about to become a mom or are already a mom, you need those friendships! You need someone who you can call in the crazy hours of the night when you're crying because of difficult children. In all honesty, sometimes we are crying for the sake of crying. Hormones are real. You need mom friends to walk alongside you, emotions and all saying "I get it. I'm here for you. I love you".  

As years have passed and my family has grown, I've been so blessed to have been given more mom friends. My once single friends have become mamas. Our friendships together have blossomed into something so special. Something that only motherhood can bring. I treasure my tribe of mom friends!  

Are you a mom or soon to be mom that doesn't have any mom friends? I suggest finding a group near you called MOPS. They are everywhere. It's a giant group of mom friends waiting to pull you in and give you a massive amount of love and support. Women who are from every walk, wanting to listen to how you are doing. Women who are there when things aren't going smoothly and when things are great! They will start as table mates and turn into lifelong friendships!