Focus On the Good Qualities

Can I just say that I loathe that us humans are so quick to focus on each other's bad qualities rather than the good ones?  

"This girl never stops talking." 

 "That guy is too emotional."  

"This person works all the time and never spends time with their family." 

"That mom allows her kids to run wild."  

"That parent can't manage to keep their house clean."  

"This person texts me way too often."  

Seriously...I could go on all day with things I've heard myself, and I'm sure you've heard it all as well. You hear these things while you're in line at Starbucks, at the grocery store, in mommy groups....oh my gosh...I think that one's probably the worst!  

We are so focused on the negative qualities people have and that it doesn't allow room for any of the positive ones to shine through. Have you ever really put thought into it though? Thought into why us humans can't manage to focus on each others good qualities?  

We want to make ourselves feel better. That's it. If we look deep down, the reason we hurt others is because we have low opinions of ourselves. A truly terrible sense of self worth. The process of putting others down makes us feel greater...."well at least I don't do that", and in the meantime we have this warped idea that in putting others down, we are building ourselves up.  Honestly, you secretly already know that, but we need to recognize that we should really put an end to the criticism! I mean, not just for the obvious reason that it tears others down, because yea, it does! But think about it. If we stopped looking for others negative qualities and started focusing on their good ones, we'd end up focusing on the good within ourselves!  

I don't know about you, but I believe the world would be a much better place if we saw the good in ourselves, because in turn we'd see the good in others. We need to stop for a minute and realize everyone's value and worth in this world, even our own value!  The next time you're about to point out something negative in others, consciously redirect that thinking to see the good.  See that girl who never stops talking as a girl who is <em>kind and makes others feel welcome in an otherwise uncomfortable situation.  See that guy who is too emotional as someone who is a really great husband and father because he is understanding of emotions.  

See that person who is working too much as someone who makes sure everyone at home is fed, and when they are home, they are making sure that it is quality family time.  

See that mom letting her kids run wild as the mom who wants to allow her kids to enjoy life.  

See that parent who can't manage to keep their house clean as someone who would rather focus on living life with their kids rather than live in excessive cleanliness.  

And see that friend who texts too often as the <em>friend who wants to stay present in others lives.

Don't be shy to let others know the good that you see in them, because compliments are one of the best gifts that you can give!